Saturday, January 1, 2011

I'm coming out ...

I will not get sucked into the body hate and diet industry this January.  Instead I will focus on my self-care and self-appreciation.  For my PERSONAL New Year's Revolution, I am coming out. This is difficult. I used to say I was "Fit and Fat". I used to consider myself an example that helps show the fat people can be healthy.  I did lots of TV, radio, and news interviews.  I enjoyed defending fat people against the prejudice and hate that is so often directed at us.   I was shocked by the amount of hate emails I got as a result of that interview.  I think it was fear of that hate that kept me in the closet these past few years.
So now, I am out of the closet ... I am not healthy any more. The Universe is teaching me that health is a fleeting thing (for people of ALL sizes!) So for the new ...year, I am coming out of the closet as a person with health issues. I may be fit and fat. But I am also coping with epilepsy, OSA, PLM, osteoarthritis, and something that is melting my tendons in my wrists and knees. Gees, I feel silly, but I am sitting here crying over this. I have been pretending and hoping all this would go away.  I kept waiting until I had my health issues solved and then I was going to write on it.  I cannot wait any longer.  People need the information I have gathered.  It is scary to come out, but today I am.  I am coming out as a fit and fat woman who also has health issues.
Guess what?  People of all sizes have health issues.  I realized as I was working with my Lifestyle Coaching clients that both fat and thin people need to do problem solving regarding health issues.  The information I have learned on my own journey toward wellness is important to share. The information I have learned from my clients as we participate in their problem solving process is important to share.  So check back often as I talk about problems and solutions to all sorts of health issues.  And thank you in advance for your acceptance as I come out of the closet.  Maybe we all can become more appreciative of and loving toward our bodies.  After all, this is the only body we've got!

8 comments:

Jackie said...

Way to go Ms. Bliss! What a difficult thing to admit - and post! You are an incredibly strong woman on a journey that you are willing to share with others. How fortunate for us! My best to you for a healthy, happy New Year!

Allen said...

It is hard to write about one's own illnesses but it is helpful, both to yourself (not being so isolated anymore) and to others (who can learn and/or relate). Keep it up!

jcny said...

Thank you for sharing this. A wise person :-). told me recently that success in life is all about learning and excellent self care. You continue to be a wonderful role model for moving through all the stages of life with grace and humor. Thank you for your honesty. Jayne

The "NoteBook" Team said...

Kelly: You're just the spokesperson we need! Not only wise and a beautiful "encourager", but an honest and down to earth "tell it as it is" person. We're proud of you.

plant said...

Dear Kelly,
Thank you for "coming out" about this. You are absolutely right that people of all sizes, all of us, get health problems, and I respect your integrity and "self-care" in sharing yours. It is only through honesty, such as you have shared about your health and dieting, etc. experiences in the past, that we can as a community develop best practices for health for all: self-care and medical practices. Thank you so much for your courage. My very best wishes to you in getting the healthcare you need and deserve, and in continuing with your wonderful program of self-care. May we support you as much as your readers and clients have been supported *by* you!

Nic said...

Think you're healthy? Yeah, yeah, just wait 3 seconds... you'll stub your toe. Thanks for coming out so we can all see that you don't have to be in "perfect condition" to be worthy. No need to prove anything to anybody... Self love and acceptance and self care are the best health of all!

patforkelly said...

So glad you finally launched your new blog. I, like many others, look forward to reading your words of wisdom, benefiting from your encouragement and marveling at your problem solving skills. Go girl!

dharmawork said...

You're an inspiration. Every time someone as courageous as you opens up and shows us the 'unpretty' side of themselves, it helps us to accept and maybe even celebrate and then share that side of ourselves. I am coming out this year with a new blog, too, as a life coach that deals constantly with bipolar disorder symptoms and anxiety and is using art as way out of the dark. Your blog is such a source of strength for me to proceed with mine.

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